What was discovered in the research was that the assumptions we make about our partner and whether they did or didn’t do something is what is called an attribution pattern. Basically, this relates to whether you judge your partner’s behaviour through jumping to conclusions or through thinking through their possible choices.
When we fail it has an impact on our self-esteem and we feel negative emotions such as anger, anxiety and shame. It depends on how we cope with the self-esteem hit in relation to (1) whether the failure impacts our future performance, (2) whether we face failure and accept we may do better next time and (3) accept that it is useful to fail for future success.
